The mindset and how we frame the inevitable challenges is critical to how we move through life. Our thoughts and actions often fall into three roles: the Victim, the Persecutor, and the Rescuer. This concept is known as The Drama Triangle (first described by Stephen Karpman in 1961). When we find ourselves in difficult situations, we tend to take on one of these roles, which can lead to disempowerment, stress, and even conflict.
The Victim role is characterized by a sense of powerlessness, blame, and a lack of responsibility. People who fall into this role often feel like they are at the mercy of their circumstances and struggle to see how they can change their situation. They might say things like, "Why does this always happen to me?" or "There's nothing I can do to change this."
The Persecutor role, on the other hand, is characterized by aggression, criticism, and blame. People who take on this role often feel like they need to control the situation and others around them to get what they want. They might say things like, "It's all your fault!" or "I can't believe you did that!"
Finally, the Rescuer role is characterized by a sense of obligation and a need to fix things for others. People who take on this role often put others' needs before their own and can become enmeshed in other people's problems. They might say things like, "Let me do it for you," or "I'll take care of everything."
However, it is important to note that these roles are not set in stone, and we can choose to shift our mindset and behavior to more empowering roles.
In 2005, David Emerald Womeldorff M.D., published a new model which is now become widely used to facilitate teamwork and productivity in organizations and individuals around the world. Unlike The Drama Triangle, which is problem focused, TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) is oriented towards your passions, goals and outcomes. The Creator, the Challenger, and the Coach are more empowering roles that we can take on to navigate challenges and achieve our goals.
The Creator role is characterized by a sense of responsibility, curiosity, and a focus on solutions. People who take on this role see challenges as opportunities for growth and take proactive steps to create positive change. They might say things like, "What can I do to make things better?" or "How can I turn this around?"
The Challenger role is characterized by constructive feedback, accountability, and a focus on growth. People who take on this role challenge others to grow and improve, while also holding themselves accountable. They might say things like, "Have you considered this perspective?" or "What can we learn from this experience?"